Our Love Story: Things Get Off to a Rocky Start

(This is the story of how my husband and I met and fell in love. If you are just now jumping in, you can catch up on last week's post here or start back at the beginning.)
As I documented before, my first words ever to the cute-new-guy-at-church-who-would-later-become-my-husband were as humbling as any: “Hi, I’m Carmen, and I need to apologize for what happened earlier…”

(If you need to catch up on what prompted the apology, you can read about it here.)

So I guess even from the beginning, God was really helping me to stick to my no-flirting vow. Because I don’t think having to apologize and admit you were wrong is going to get you very many numbers at a bar.

Since it was summer, every Sunday night the youth group got together just for the sole purpose of having fun. There was water balloon capture the flag, a night of playing cards, and plenty of impromptu trips to Sonic for milkshakes and mozzarella sticks. The youth group wasn’t especially big, so there weren’t very many adult volunteers—maybe a dozen, max. Sometimes we’d both be there and sometimes we’d chat, but it was never for any length of time at all, really. Because we were there to hang out with the teens. More often than not, if I wasn’t playing spoons with the kids, I was hanging out with the other women leaders.

About a month after we’d met, there was a weeklong youth-group trip planned to Illinois, and we both signed up to go as chaperones. As we geared up for the trip, the youth minister wanted to have a big kick-off party the night beforehand, complete with a bonfire and songs. My husband plays guitar and has even put out a CD, so he was the natural choice to lead worship for the event.

A week or so beforehand, he sent me a message on Facebook, asking what kinds of songs I thought might be good for him to play. I tried not to read too much into the question, telling myself that he was asking me because I’d been helping out with the youth group longer and knew the girls well.

So I suggested my at-the-time favorite Christian artist (who remains a personal favorite of mine to this day), John Mark McMillan. I had just gotten his cd with the song “How He Loves,” which was before David Crowder Band had covered it and it was hitting airwaves in a major way. Meaning, that not too many were familiar with it, so I made a copy of it and the next week at church, I offered it to him, as a way to help him learn the songs.

He declined and told me he wasn’t into burning music.

I know he did it in a gracious way, but at the time, it caught me off guard and felt like a complete rejection. So do you know what I replied? “Oh, well, if you have morals or something…”

Oh my.

It still makes me cringe thinking about it to this day and still makes my husband laugh and laugh. (Although at the time he was certain I couldn't stand him, which of course was the furthest thing from the truth.)

He ended up taking the cd (because, like I said, he’s a gracious guy) and singing the song at the bonfire. But it was just another proof that God was totally at work helping me stick to my no-flirting vow. Almost too much, it might seem!

Click here to read the next part in Our Love Story.

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  1. Sarah (Proverbs 31:30)July 26, 2012 at 7:14 AM

    Now I have to wait a WHOLE week!
    patience is a virtue... that I don't possess.

  2. Whoa. "The youth group wasn't especially big....so there weren't many adult volunteers-maybe a dozen, max."

    I think we have different ministry contexts. :) That sounds quite large! Glad you were both working with them...it definitely sounds like God used moments of humility to make him stand out in your life! :) Thanks for sharing your story!

    1. True, I guess context (as always) is key! For a church with 2,000+ attendees, 12 volunteers for a youth group ranging from grades 6-12 was stretching it a bit at times. Anyway, part of what is so neat about that is that even though there were so few (in my opinion!) volunteers, my spouse happened to be one of them. Goes to show God can use ANY circumstance to bring about his plan. I love that :)

  3. Oh goodness! I read your love story like a novel... I feel it all. The humor, the cringe-worthy, the humility. I have to say, though, I admire your ability to apologize the way you did that first day! Not everyone would! And I bet it impressed your man, too. ^_^

    1. Ha! I'm so glad you're enjoying reading my story--even all the parts I wish never happened :) But it's important to me to be real with how things happened because sometimes I think we tend to assume that a good love story isn't filled with mistakes and missteps and things like that. But oftentimes it is, and that just goes to show how the grace of God covers over everything and how it is always HIM working it all out for our own good. So reassuring for me to see it that way!

    2. Love this reply Carmen. It's so true! I am now looking forward to your post next week! so enjoyable.

  4. Ha ha! This is such a fun cute story- I'm enjoying reading each piece of it as well :) Also, I LOVE that song - I first heard it by John Mark McMillan as well, and still enjoy his version the best.
    Can't wait to hear the next portion of the story!

    1. Fun! So glad to hear from a fellow JMM fan! I don't think there's a song he's written that I haven't enjoyed :)

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